Tame your perfectionist: Get Stuff Done!

Posted on February 21st, 2017.
Posted in these categories: Business Matters, Time Management, Video. 2 Comments

Ever feel stuck writing or creating – your perfectionist getting in the way?

You go round and round in circles, tweaking, changing and re-tweaking, trying to get it ‘perfect’?

 

If you know you waste time and energy creating content for your business, then watch this video
(it’s 3 minutes and 29 seconds long)  to hear my tip on how  to tame your perfectionist!

 

 

Over to you:

 

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Making small-talk work for you (your business will thank you for it!)

Posted on February 14th, 2017.
Posted in these categories: Business Foundations, Stepping Out. No Comments

Small Talk

If you’re anything like me, you hate small-talk with a vengeance.  When it comes to meeting new people, you wish you didn’t feel so awkward, and could manage a few coherent sentences without wanting the ground to swallow you up.

Small-talk seems to come easy to some people – talking about the weather, or their journey to the venue or any number of other ‘trivial’ snippets seem to just trip off the tongue with no effort.

And then there’s us introverts, for whom small-talk is like wading through treacle.

Picture the scene ….

You’ve made it to the networking event – you walk in, grab your badge, and make it over to the coffee table hoping that nobody noticed you looking nervous.

You pour your drink as slowly as possible to kill time (even an extra 30 seconds of calm is better than nothing, right?!).

You slowly turn to face the rest of the room, palms sweating, throat dry as you’re thinking “Now what?”

Does this resonate with you? But wait, there’s more!


What to do when the biggest challenge in your business is YOU

Posted on February 7th, 2017.
Posted in these categories: Business Foundations, Stepping Out. No Comments

Connecting with others

It was a beautiful sunny day in April 2013, when I got the shocking news that I have a form of face blindness (Prosopagnosia, to give it it’s official term).

I’d known for some time that I found it really uncomfortable to look at people’s faces, and I’d found connecting with others in a group quite challenging and visually tiring. I can recognise people but I can only see a small portion of their face at one time – so I have to scan rapidly to take the whole face in (which is why it’s so tiring). That’s only a problem in group situations if lots of people are talking at once.

It was a huge shock for me, and for several months afterwards I went into a downward spin – feeling depressed and worthless and ‘abnormal’.

I felt severely lacking …

I asked myself

“How can I possibly build a business if I can’t even do that properly?”

But wait, there’s more!


What is an introvert? Debunking the myths and taking back our power.

Posted on January 31st, 2017.
Posted in these categories: Introversion, Stepping Out. No Comments

What is an introvert?

There are many misconceptions about what it means to be an introvert, including that we don’t like socialising, we’re quiet because we don’t have anything interesting to say, and we’re generally boring to be around.

In this article I aim to debunk some of these myths and give an introvert’s answer to the question:

“What is an introvert?”

The terms ‘Introvert’ and ‘Extrovert’ were coined originally by Carl Jung in 1921. Jung said introverts are drawn to the inner world of thoughts and feelings, and recharge their batteries by being alone. Extroverts recharge by being with people.

It’s taken me a long time to be able to stand up and proudly call myself an introvert. For most of my adult life I’ve felt ashamed and in denial about being labelled an introvert – as if it was somehow a dirty word.

I know that I find some things very challenging that other people find easy, such as …

  • thinking on their feet/answering questions ‘off the top of their head’,
  • being witty and engaging with a group of complete strangers, or
  • being able to thrive with lots of daytime socialising (not to mention thoroughly enjoying and being really effective at networking events).

All of these things I’ve labelled in my head as lacking and somehow not quite ‘measuring up’ to the ideal.

Is that you too?

But wait, there’s more!


Time Management: Why ‘NOT doing’ is vital for your mental well being as an introvert in business.

Posted on January 18th, 2017.
Posted in these categories: Self care, Time Management. 2 Comments

Time Management

When was the last time you linked time management with self care in your mind?

When are you really conscious of how you’re spending your time, and how that’s affecting you physically and mentally?

Do you ever feel drained and wonder why?

I had a lovely restful Christmas break, when I did some things I wouldn’t normally do, (thanks to a very inspiring book). I learned a huge amount about myself and the shifts I need to make to take better care of myself AND be much more successful in my time management.

The implications are huge – for my business and my life, and I want to share the lessons with you!

Prior to my break I’d thought I was doing pretty well; being productive during my working time and keeping up with my email and social media.

But my bad habits were revealed to me bit by bit as I read this very important book, and now there’s no going back – my eyes have been opened!

I’d decided to completely shut off from the internet – no email, no social media – so I could completely unwind and relax.  And in that blissful state …

I noticed the stark contrast between that and what I ‘usually’ do!

But wait, there’s more!


Acknowledging the lesson when people unsubscribe, and what to do next

Posted on October 21st, 2016.
Posted in these categories: Business Matters, Getting Results. 4 Comments

I have a confession to make …

I’ve had lots of people unsubscribe from my list recently.

The more emails I send out, the more I seem to have people decide they no longer want to hear from me.

Not so long ago I would have been crushed – knowing that at one point these people had signed up wanting to learn something useful from me, and now they’ve rejected me – decided what I’ve got is ‘not good enough’ and not worth their time.

Can you relate?

Even now it’s a small blow to my ego and sense of self worth … I send an email and immediately someone unsubscribes. Ouch!

And yet….

There’s a small part of me that’s saying ‘Yes!’, with relief and “ok-ness” .

As I put myself ‘out there’ more and more, I’ve been sharing valuable content, and also inviting people to move closer to me in various ways, and even offering things for sale.

I want you to be clear that when (not if!) this happens to you, you’ll know how to handle it with grace and ease.

If someone unsubscribes and you find yourself ‘drowning’ in negative stuff – you need to read this.

What it DOESN’T mean when people unsubscribe:

But wait, there’s more!


5 Key Steps To Business Success (The Introvert Way)

Posted on September 16th, 2016.
Posted in these categories: Business Foundations, Getting Results. 2 Comments
business success

Walk through the door – step towards your business success!

I’ve just had the most amazing weekend.

I was one of the speakers at the first Your Signature Success Story event in Kenilworth, UK. It was my first big speaking event (and I got to wear a microphone pack, and it was filmed (just to increase the pressure a bit!)

I met such amazing, inspirational women, my talk was a great success and I made some great connections that will help my business grow,  increase my reach and mean that I can help many more people.

And it all started with one conversation.

And what led to that conversation was my heartfelt desire to reach more people through speaking.

I have a vision and a yearning to tell my story and to inspire other sensitive introverts;  to teach what I know about coming out of your shell and overcoming your fear of being visible, and what it takes to feel confident to attract paying clients so you can make the difference in the world that you’re here to make.

Do you yearn to make more of a difference, to reach more people and to have more paying clients?

Yet are you held back by your fear … of stepping into the unknown, of getting it ‘wrong’ and being stuck with a wrong decision, or of being ridiculed and rejected for your ideas?

I know how that feels, it’s frustrating and paralysing .

Yet I know that fear doesn’t have to stop you….

The journey to your business success starts with being kind to yourself and compassionate with your fears (you can watch a video I created about this here)

The rest can be summarised like this…

The key steps to taking inspired action for your business success:

But wait, there’s more!


Stressed about self-employed tax? – Calming interview with Rosie Slosek!

Posted on September 2nd, 2016.
Posted in these categories: Business Foundations, Interview, Video. No Comments

tax

When you’re first starting out in self employment, the whole issue of tax and accounting can be a big worry.

It might be one of those things that you leave to the very last minute, not getting clear information and just hoping you’ll be able to figure it out at some point ‘later’.

I want to introduce you to Rosie Slosek, who brings order and calm to all those of us who are anxious and worried about tax and accounting. She’s down to earth, explains things in clear, simple English and is a mine of useful information (she’s also fun and loves cake!)

I interviewed Rosie to get some answers to questions that might be useful for you if you’re just starting in business (in the UK).

You’ll find the answers to the following puzzles:

  • Do you need to be earning money before you’re in business? How to know whether you’ve started ‘trading’.
  • How to know if you’re a sole trader or a company.
  • What records do you have to keep when you’re first starting out in business?

But wait, there’s more!


How To Overcome Fear… My Home Truths.

Posted on July 1st, 2016.
Posted in these categories: Getting Results, Stepping Out. 6 Comments

how to overcome fear

It was a warm, sunny June morning,

when Sue Williams, asked me if I would come and speak at her Your Signature Success conference in September 2016.

My first thought was “Hell yes, I’d love to”

My next thoughts were of logistics – How can I organize dogcare, childcare, and travel down to the Midlands (I live near Stirling in central Scotland).

I was feeling great, I’m passionate about speaking on the topic of Overcoming the Fear of Visibility (that’s my life’s work!)  I know it’s a powerful topic and I’m comfortable and confident speaking about it (once I get into my flow!)

Then I read the event page and about all the expert speakers (some of whom I recognize as ‘famous’ people), and my stomach lurched in fear and dread.

A voice in me piped up

“Who are you to be speaking alongside all of these?”

“They’ve had years of experience, and you’re just starting out …. “

“You’re not worthy…. “ etc,etc.

Later on that day, my fear crossed the tracks into excitement when I read that a VIP ticket includes dinner with the speakers …

But wait, there’s more!


3 Keys To Attracting Clients (who pay you) !

Posted on June 17th, 2016.
Posted in these categories: Business Foundations, Getting Results, Video. 2 Comments

attracting clients

What are the foundations you need to have in place for you to start attracting clients to your service business ?

Once you’ve figured out who you’re trying to reach, what they’re struggling with and what they’d be prepared to PAY for help with, then you can move on to creating your online foundations to start attracting clients.

Building foundations will enable you to gather a community of people around you who love what you do, and who also buy from you and recommend you to their friends.

I’m going to share with you 3 things that you must have in place to attract and nurture people who will eventually want to BUY from you.

Click below to watch the video!

What are the foundation keys to attracting clients?

But wait, there’s more!


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