Hi, I’m Ann.
I am a trauma informed coach with 20 years experience, a proud Mum, and a reformed self-saboteur.
When we try to overcome self-sabotage, we tend to focus on what’s missing or broken within us. Rarely do we ask ourselves what we already have that makes us strong and resilient.
Not being able to do things is not a character flaw or a weakness. It’s a message.
A message that says: “This feels so bad, I can’t face it, let’s do something else, so we can feel better.”
What you are really avoiding is not the task at hand, but the emotion it elicits within you. An emotion deeply connected to your past. It says:
You’re not smart enough. Nothing you do will ever be good. They won’t like it anyway. Who even cares about this? You’re not worth it. You don’t deserve this.
Addressing self-sabotage and procrastination means connecting with this emotion and learning to meet it with self-compassion, love and understanding.
I’m here to un-shame self-sabotage and simplify finding the self-worth, courage, confidence, trust, and love that’s hidden within you.
I was once where you are.
I had a very unhappy childhood, with no emotional support. I would walk around with my head down, because I didn’t want anyone to notice me. I was bullied in school, I had abusive relationships. I grew up believing I was worthless and I had zero self-confidence.
During my coach training I discovered my scared, vulnerable inner child, and I also discovered that I have many other parts inside me. I have a nurturing, supportive mother figure, a genius creative, and a strong cool-headed ‘executive woman’ part – who is straight talking, confident and just gets things done.
This was a huge revelation to me. I had been living my whole life thinking I was small and inadequate. Yet all along, these other parts of me were in there, occasionally getting to come out and do their thing, but mostly locked away because my scared inner child was running the show.
I now know that we all have many parts inside us. But when we self-sabotage, all we see is the brokenness and failure, and we assume that’s all we are.
But you are so much more than that!
I’m here because I believe in you.
You might be sabotaging yourself, you might be ruining your dreams and keeping yourself from achieving what you want. But that doesn’t mean you can’t change.
You have everything inside you that you’ll ever need. You could just do with a little help to bring more of YOU to the surface.
When you repeatedly commit to changing, and you make plans every day to do better, I don’t see that as failure. I see that as proof that you’re determined to succeed.
That part of you might only come out in snippets, but it’s still there. When you learn how to recognise and enhance those parts, they get stronger in your awareness and you get to use them more often.
Many of us have lived a difficult life, with a childhood threaded with sadness, shame and fear. I’m here to show you how to tap into your innate strength and resilience. I want to show you how to express more often the parts of you that make you great and productive, and also make your life vibrant and meaningful.
“When I came to Ann, exercise had been a constant struggle for me, leading to feelings of shame and self-loathing. But in an easy, gentle and fast way, she helped me identify and breakthrough the mental barriers that have kept me stuck. For the first time, the idea of exercise and moving my body is something I’m beginning to feel drawn towards instead of repelled by. This shift in perspective is absolutely life-changing, and I owe it all to Ann’s guidance and support.“
Steve M.
A little bit more about me.
I’m an INFJ on the Myers Briggs and a 4 on the Enneagram.
I moved to central Scotland for a quieter, more peaceful life, and to nurture my love of trees! Now living surrounded by woodland near to Loch Lomond, I cherish the space and tranquility.
In my garden, I love growing my own fruit and veggies – there’s no greater joy than planting seeds in a little soil and marvelling how nature weaves her magic to create such tasty foods to eat. I also make my own organic, raw chocolate (delicious, though I say so myself !!)
I’m a scientist at heart with a degree in Applied Biology, and worked in medical research for 5 years.
My journey with NLP began in 2007, and it has changed my life in immeasurable ways.
I’m on the autistic spectrum, with all the sensory and social challenges that brings.
I have face blindness – so if we’ve met before, and I don’t seem to recognise you, that’s why!