Hi, I’m Ann
I’m not a doctor or a therapist. I’m a survivor like you. And for the past 15 years I have made it my mission to help other women find their way back to themselves and live the happy, fulfilled life they deserve.
I believe that everyone has the right to have a present and a future free from the overpowering troubles of their past.
We all deserve to live a happy, fulfilled and connected life. And that includes you.
You can learn to heal and to thrive, despite everything that’s happened in your past. I’ll be honest with you, the effects of complex trauma are deep and wide, and it never completely goes away. But you can learn to manage it, and to rise above it.
I’ve learned how to live a joy filled, connected life. I live true to my values, and honour who I am, including all my sensitive quirks and ‘weirdness’. I feel grateful and blessed to be alive. And I know that’s possible for you too.
You can create a new ending to your story
Why I believe in the power of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic-Programming)
NLP is a set of tools that enable us to draw ‘conceptual maps’ of our present and our past experiences.
It gives us the power to change how we perceive our life experience and our interactions with others.
NLP allows us to meet our inner child, (the part of us that was traumatised) and build connections with our other internal parts.
When we’ve experienced trauma, we have an internal ‘blueprint’ of neglect and abandonment, which we tend to repeat as a pattern throughout our lives.
I use NLP to enable clients to re-parent their inner child, and to re-create an experience of love and nurturing, no matter how they were treated in real life.
This transforms their experience of ‘self-care’ as an adult, and brings profound relief.
My story of overcoming my childhood trauma
I understand what it’s like to be a trauma survivor. I’ve lived with trauma my whole life.
My mother was an alcoholic, and my siblings and I lived in fear of her mood swings and violent rages. I had no-one to turn to when kids bullied me in school. My sensitivity and fear of conflict meant I learned to just shut down, and bury all my feelings.
Mum died when I was 14, and from then I retreated even further into my shell. I lurched from one toxic relationship to the next, until I finally met the love of my life, Sam, a kind, gentle and ‘normal’ person . He understood my sensitivity and my ‘weirdness’ and we had a happy, though sadly too short, life together.
He died suddenly, just after our daughter was born.
(If you’d like to learn more, you can read my story here, or listen to me share it here.)
Trauma has such deep and wide-ranging effects, you don’t see it because it’s all you know.
All my life I’ve felt flawed and unworthy, and didn’t understand why. I used to live every day with an aching sadness and loneliness.
I know what it’s like to have to put on a ‘brave face’ and pretend everything’s ok.
After my husband’s death, I found NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP) and it changed everything. Through learning NLP, I found a way to grieve properly and to let go of the self-hatred and toxic shame I’d carried my whole life.
I became an NLP coach because I care about helping you to break free from the effects of trauma and live the happy life that you deserve.
Here’s a few more things about me:
I’m an INFJ on the Myers Briggs and a 4 on the Enneagram.
I moved to central Scotland for a quieter, more peaceful life, and to nurture my love of trees! I now live surrounded by woodland on a 20 acre plot, near to Loch Lomond. I cherish the space and tranquility, and my home is my happy place.
In my garden, I love growing my own fruit and veggies – there’s no greater joy than planting seeds in a little soil and marvelling how nature weaves her magic to create such tasty foods to eat. I also make my own organic, raw chocolate (delicious, though I say so myself !!)
I’m a scientist at heart with a degree in Applied Biology, and worked in medical research for 5 years.
I’m deeply spiritual – I was raised as a Catholic, but rebelled against that strict doctrine in my early twenties. I believe that the Universe/Gaia/Higher power is looking out for us, and brings what we need, when we need it. I can have a deep connection to my own heart, and be filled with joy and ‘Oneness’, but I still don’t like the word ‘God’.
I’m on the autistic spectrum, with all the sensory and social challenges that brings.
I have face blindness – so if we’ve met before, and I don’t seem to recognise you, that’s why!