How catastrophe could turn out to be your saviour

How catastrophe could turn out to be your saviour

Most of us go through our days trying to be happy, healthy and living the best life we can. We avoid conflict and drama, and try to forget those past times in our life that were difficult.  But sometimes life conspires to bring us face to face with those things that...

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What is complex PTSD?

What is complex PTSD?

There are things that happen within our own families and communities that have a long term negative impact. And it’s those things that go on unseen, over many years, that can have a devastating effect on the lives of people who experience them.
Let me introduce you to something called complex PTSD.

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The real reason behavioural therapy isn’t working for you.

The real reason behavioural therapy isn’t working for you.

When you know you’re not coping well with everyday life, you might decide to try behavioural therapy. You might have heard great things about it, and been recommended to try ‘CBT’ (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). You might have many weeks or months of therapy but it still doesn’t seem to make any difference. You do your therapy ‘homework’, yet still feel uncomfortable in some situations.

If therapy isn’t working, you might start to question whether there is any hope for you. Well, I want to reassure you, and give you some clarity about what’s actually going on.

There is a good reason why behavioural therapy isn’t working for you if you’ve experienced trauma.

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What counts as traumatic experience?

What counts as traumatic experience?

We’re surrounded by news reports about the tragic things that happen in our world. War, catastrophic floods, hurricanes wiping out entire villages.   These things are so devastating we call them ‘traumatic’.  We understand that word ‘trauma’ to mean something BIG. ...

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The deeper meaning hidden in your intense reactions

The deeper meaning hidden in your intense reactions

If you prefer your life to be simple and uncomplicated, welcome to the club!  We all want a straightforward life, where everything makes sense.  A life where what happens to us and how we respond is predictable and safe.  But for some of us, it doesn’t happen like...

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How to cope when you feel abandoned.

How to cope when you feel abandoned.

The world is often a difficult place to navigate. People say and do hurtful things to each other.  Sometimes by accident, and sometimes on purpose.  Even those people who should love and support us can sometimes neglect their ‘duty of care’. We can feel bruised and...

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Signs you may have trauma and not know about it.

Signs you may have trauma and not know about it.

It might surprise you to know that many people find 'everyday' situations difficult.‘Ordinary’ situations like attending a meeting at work.  Even ordering coffee in a cafe, or driving the kids to school can cause extreme discomfort in some people.  If you’re one of...

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Crying needs to be normalised!

Crying needs to be normalised!

Most of us have had experiences when we were young of being told   “Big boys/girls don’t cry” “Don’t be scared” ‘Wipe away those tears and put on a smile!’   And as we get older that phrasing might change to “Cheer up, it’s not that bad” “Pull yourself together”...

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You’re not broken: Sensitivity is a Superpower!

You’re not broken: Sensitivity is a Superpower!

If you’ve ever watched the news or read an article about the level of injustice in the world, and been overwhelmed by a deep sense of sadness and helplessness - you’re not ‘over-reacting’.    Maybe you’ve attended an event or party with friends, even had fun and...

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The fine wool suit that never quite fitted.

The fine wool suit that never quite fitted.

10 years ago in April 2010, almost a year after qualifying as a coach, I was still searching for my niche, so I could attract people to pay me for coaching.  I felt completely out of my depth, not knowing how to find clients, and feeling like a fish out of water. I’d...

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