Let go of the shadows
of your past and start living a happier, fulfilled life today.
Private coaching in the comfort of your own home. I’ll help you understand yourself better, get a grip on your inner world, and finally build those meaningful relationships you want.
You don’t have to live your life grappling with your emotions, and feeling like you don’t belong. It’s never too late to be the person you’ve always wanted to be. You can get your life on track.
You’ve had a lifetime of ‘getting through’ stuff, and you’ve overcome so much in establishing your career or raising a family.
You might have had an abusive or toxic relationship, or you had a neglectful or abusive childhood. Maybe you were bullied at school, or in the workplace.
Like a swan gliding through water, you’re an expert at pretending everything’s ok, while paddling like crazy under the surface.
You’re able to take care of things and function ‘normally’, but your emotions and behaviours are sabotaging you.
Sooner or later things fall apart and you never reach your potential in your career, or your relationships with others.
You’ve read all the self-help books and you’ve Googled til the small hours.
You might have changed your job. Said goodbye to yet another bad relationship. You’ve maybe taken medication at various times, or even tried therapy.
But nothing has worked.
If this sounds like you, please don’t give up.
Your recovery is possible, and it’s never too late.
The challenges you’re facing are not your fault. Your feelings and irrational reactions are not your fault. Everything you’re feeling is a perfectly natural response to things that happened in your past.
Your healing starts right now, with loving acceptance and compassion for what is.
Recovery Programme – How does it work?
You need:
- To get off that hamster wheel, and take some time out.
- Someone who will listen to you, deeply, sensitively and without judgement.
- Someone to help you make sense of what’s going on, both inside and outside of you.
- To find a way to believe that you deserve all the love, care and appreciation you’ve been missing all your life. And someone to help you receive all of that and more.
First Step:
Understand your thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
Understand what complex trauma is and how it shows up in your life. So you can make informed choices in the process ahead.
Second Step:
Map out your story and discover the source of your trauma.
Draw connections between your past and your present and notice when your trauma takes over, so you can put a stop to it.
Third Step:
Learn simple techniques to feel better in challenging times.
From internal communication skills, self-soothing techniques and re-regulation. Learn how to navigate your world calmly and safely.
Final Step:
Start building a brighter future for yourself.
Develop your daily self-care management plan, including practical strategies to deal with work, personal and relationship challenges.
Why work with me?
I understand what it’s like to be a trauma survivor. I’ve lived with trauma my whole life.
My mother was an alcoholic, and my siblings and I lived in fear of her mood swings and violent rages. She died when I was 14. From then on, I retreated even further into my shell.
I lurched from one toxic relationship to the next, until I finally met the love of my life. Tragically he died suddenly just after our daughter was born.
I know what it’s like to have to put on a ‘brave face’ and pretend everything’s ok.
I’m a trauma-informed certified NLP coach with 15 years experience.
I focus on inner child work, because scientifically it’s been shown to be one of the best ways to heal complex trauma. It’s proven and well-established in the psychological and psychiatric community.
Next steps to take:
If you decide you’d like to find out more, I invite you to book a free Connection call with me, which will take place on Zoom.
How to book a free Connection call.
1. Click on the green button below, which takes you to my online Calendar.
2. Choose a convenient day and a time for us to speak together.
3. Please answer the 11 questions listed, which will help you to get clear on what’s going on in your life. It also helps me prepare for our conversation. (Please take your time, there’s no rush or time limit to answering these questions)
4. Check your inbox for an email confirming our appointment, which also includes the Zoom link for our call.
What’s the purpose of our free Connection call?
Once you submit your booking request, I will carefully read your answers, and prepare for our one hour call.
The purpose of this call is to discuss your answers, and for us to get to know each other. It helps me to get a deeper understanding of you, what kind of support you’re needing, and for us to decide whether we’re a good fit to work together.
As a result of that, you will then be free to take your time to decide whether you’d like to have coaching with me.
You can ask me any questions, with no pressure to decide straight away.
It’s up to you if you choose to go ahead, and that might be at any point in the future.
Recovery Programme –
What’s included?
If we decide to work together, we’ll meet twice monthly until you feel our work is complete.
Our 60 minute calls will take place online or by phone.
Cost: £350 monthly.
Here’s what you get in addition:
Audio of call
You can choose to have a recording made, so you can listen again to the material we covered.
Email connection
So you feel supported in between our calls.
15 min Booster calls
Once per month included, for times when email support is not enough.
Online scheduling
Easily pick a time that suits you.
When you have this support in place, you won’t feel so alone or misunderstood.
You’ll feel calmer and less stressed out, and you’ll be able to think more clearly.
You’ll be operating from a more centred and loving place.
And you’ll be developing the awareness and the confidence to get your needs met.
Which impacts every area of your life, in a healthy way.
“Ann, you are great with sensitives !
You have a lovely mixture of gentleness and challenge, a *just right* mix.”
“Ann has a fantastic ability to gently breakdown barriers and get to the core of the issue. Working with Ann has unleashed a power within me.”
“There’s a grace and elegance in the way you work Ann, that’s gentle, tender and strong.”
“You’ve woken me up and helped me find the confidence to keep going, to believe in myself and to trust my inner self. I know you’re there for me, you care for me, you support me and I trust you.”
Frequently asked questions:
1. How do I know if this is right for me?
To make the most of this support:
a. You’ll need to have access to supportive people outside of this relationship (eg friends, partner, therapist).
b. You need to be curious and willing to explore some deep, uncomfortable places.
c. You need to be aware that you may feel worse, before you feel better.
d. You need to allocate some focussed time in between our calls for doing ‘homework’ exercises.
This will include journalling/free writing, doodling or other self-expression activities.
There will also be some body awareness practices for you to work with.
2. Who is this NOT for?
This work is probably not a good fit if:
a. You’re not willing to spend time outside of our calls thinking about what we’ve discussed, and taking action.
b. You’re looking for someone to ‘fix’ you, without any effort on your part.
c. You’ve never done any personal development work or self-awareness practices.
d. You’re looking for a quick solution.
3. How long would I need to work with you?
This work is about:
– deep healing,
– changing how you view your past, and what’s possible in your future
– dealing with your current life challenges that block your progress.
How long will that take?
The truth is, recovering from trauma is an ongoing process, (a ‘forever’ process).
But that doesn’t mean you need to work with me forever!
I will check in with you regularly, to make sure that the support I’m providing is still valuable for you.
If you decide you’d like to stop our work, then you’re free to do that at any point.
We’ll have an understanding that we continue for as long as it makes sense, and stop when it doesn’t.
4. Is this therapy?
No, this isn’t therapy.
I like to call this ‘therapeutic coaching’.
I’m here not just to listen, but also to ask the right questions, and give you a plan.
I’ll explain the things that are going on in your head and put the power back into YOUR hands.
This is a deep process that will take you to some uncomfortable places.
But don’t worry, you’ll be guided gently and lovingly, and at a pace that’s just right for you.
5. Do I need to talk about all the details of my trauma?
You don’t need to talk about anything you don’t want to.
You don’t need to reveal any intimate details of what, who, where, why or when.
Your inner child knows how much detail should be revealed to communicate her feelings and needs to you.
We can work with that.
6. What kind of trauma are you experienced in dealing with?
I have personal experience in dealing with neglect and abandonment issues related to:
alcoholism, poverty, severe mental illness, being on the autistic spectrum, domestic violence and abuse, bullying and death of close family.
My experience plus my coaching and NLP training enables me to help clients with a wide range of underlying issues.
If you need specialised trauma therapy, I may be able to point you to a more suitable service.
7. How do I know that I'll be safe in this process? Are you trained to deal with deep emotional stuff?
A wise mentor once said to me
“You can’t take a client further than you’ve been yourself”
Healing from my own trauma wounds has required me to go to some very dark places, and shed a lot of tears.
I’m very attuned to the discomfort of emotional healing and supporting clients through that.
There will be tears, but they’ll be healing tears, and you’ll feel better afterwards. (Promise!)
We’ll go at your own pace, and I’ll do my very best to provide a secure emotional container, so that you’re safely held.
8. Do you only work with women?
I’ve used female gendered pronouns on this page because many of my clients have been women.
However, I’m available to work with anyone, regardless of gender identification.
9. What if this is just too expensive for me?
I offer two scholarship places at any one time.
This means I can adjust pricing for those who are experiencing financial difficulty.
If you’d like to be considered for this, please let me know during our connection call.
If the scholarship places are full, I will put you on the waiting list until a space becomes available.